I'm 24 years old and have said more than once that the theme of my life is I don't know.
I don't know what I want to do with my life. Don't know if I should be spending the majority of my salary paying off my student loan or traveling. Don't know if I should get married or date around. Heck, some days I don't even know what to wear or what to eat!
And I'm guessing I'm not the only one.
Sometimes I find things that make me feel better about the not knowing, things that make me feel less lost and more okay. When I do, I'll post them here.
The most recent article I found was "The Friendship Exodus Of Your 20s." Here's an excerpt:
As you slide into your mid-twenties, you’ll have found that core group who survived the goodbyes, or maybe were the hellos who made the rest more bearable. The ones who you meet for a (slightly less cheap) brunch, go to movies with, play at being grownups, and throw dinner parties for. As you settle in to your lives, you begin to seriously couple-up, and maybe new faces come and go, but some slide in seamlessly, and become so intricately a part of the group that you can’t fathom that they weren’t there from the beginning. You share new jobs, hated bosses, and being laid off. You lament over student debt that is going nowhere but up, the terror of buying a new car, and oh dear god how do I file my taxes? You grow into adulthood, careers, higher education, and relationships with one another.
...Slowly as you slip from your twenties, there are no more clear delineations of goodbyes. People and priorities spread apart—moving away, following different paths, and new dreams. It’s neither leaving each other behind nor choosing something better, but the natural exodus of friendship in your twenties. It’s a time of change and goodbyes, of new beginnings somewhere else, and making it on your own. A period of coming and going, of clinging to what you know while simultaneously flinging yourself into the unknown.
This one felt particularly comforting and timely because I had just been talking with a friend about how relationships, particularly friendships, change as we get older and our lives change.
Anyway, if you're in your twenties and/or relate to the I don't know feelings, feel free to check out Resources for Twenty-Somethings often. I'll update it whenever I find something new!
(Photo: Literally, Darling)